I realised that FOMO was doing nothing but causing me unnecessary stress, which is why I’ve chosen to embrace JOMO: The joy of missing out. Unless something brings me total joy at the prospect of it, I’m happy to miss out.
Learning How to Say No
A great rule of thumb is for everything you say yes to, say no to something else. It’s a bit like the one-in-one-out rule of buying clothes to avoid clutter.
For some reason, however, saying no sometimes feels like the hardest thing in the world. I like keeping the peace and I hate to let people down, but I realised that my own health and wellbeing were more important than making other people happy.
Fortunately, I found lots of resources to help me to learn how to say no.
Stop Giving a F*ck
Mark Manson’s amazing book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck really helped me to understand which things are important to me and which ones I’m just doing because I feel like I should.
The secret to not giving a fuck isn’t to say “fuck it” to everything in life, just to the things that aren’t important to you. This gives you more time and energy to focus on the right things.
I’d thoroughly recommend giving the book a read, but this summary of the main points will give you more of an idea of what Manson’s talking about.
Seriously, Stop Giving a F*ck
On a similar note, Sarah Knight’s The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck is a cross between Manson’s book and Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. It’s like learning how to spring clean your priorities and to “choose joy over annoy”.
The subtitle “How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have with People You Don’t Like Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do” really sums things up! When you put it like that, why would anyone want to spend their precious time that way?!
The book is full of great quotes and nuggets of wisdom that sometimes verge on offensive by how accurately they call you on your BS.
Do What’s Essential
Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism discusses “The Disciplined Pursuit of Less”, which is a great summary of what I believe JOMO to be. McKeown urges us to do “less but better”, choosing quality over quantity in our lives. This means asking yourself “What is essential?” and eliminating everything else.
These 10 essentialism hacks will give you a snapshot of the principle and how you can apply it to your life and work.
Miss Out More
Working with a team will free up some of your precious time to spend however you want. Whether that’s working on projects you love, giving yourself a bit of mental breathing space or simply practising the art of not giving a fuck, I’m here to support you.
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